18 Steps To Safety

RAISEYOURVOICE!!

It can be hard to know if your relationship is headed down the wrong path. While it’s not always possible to prevent relationship violence, there are steps you can take to try to protect yourself.

If you think your partner might be controlling or abusive, you can:

1. Trust your feelings. If something doesn’t seem right, take it seriously.

2. Find out about the warning signs of someone who might become controlling or violent.

3. Get help. Talk to people who are experts in relationship violence.

4. Remember that if your partner hurts you, it’s not your fault.

5.  Have an Escape plan!

6.  Talk to an Advocate 

7. Find Out where safe houses are(Just incase)

8. Keep a folder of all important documents.(Pictures, Court paper work, Restraining order, ect..)

9. Try to find an attorney that has experience with Domestic Violence.

10. (If have kids) Talk to them. Know what is going on in their life. Show that your care and keep them safe.

11. If children are involved write down what you want (contact arrangements etc) before any meetings/court dates as intimidation may occur there.

12. If you leave. LEAVE. Do Not Go Back! Lose ALL contact.

13. Find out all programs your Community has for DV Victims 

14.  Educate yourself on Domestic Violence

15. Try talking to someone who has gone through Domestic Violence

16. Run to someone you can trust and Let them know what is going on, (You can never tell enough people. It maybe hard but you're saving your life and others)

17. CALL THE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE! 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

18.  KNOW THAT YOU ARE IMPORTANT! 

If your partner might be controlling or abusive, it’s better to get help now than to wait. Controlling or violent relationships usually get worse over time.

Victim Tips Pt 3: Women

#RAISEYOURVOICE!

Getting out of an abusive or violent relationship isn’t easy. Maybe you’re still hoping that things will change or you’re afraid of what your partner will do if he discovers you’re trying to leave. Whatever your reasons, you probably feel trapped and helpless. But help is available. There are many resources available for abused and battered women, including crisis hotlines, shelters—even job training, legal services, and childcare. You deserve to live free of fear. Start by reaching out.

Why doesn't she just leave? It’s the question many people ask when they learn that a woman is being battered and abused. But if you are in an abusive relationship, you know that it’s not that simple. Ending an important relationship is never easy. It’s even harder when you’ve been isolated from your family and friends, psychologically beaten down, financially controlled, and physically threatened.

BE READY!

-Be on alert for signs and clues that your abuser is getting upset and may explode in anger or violence. Come up with several believable reasons you can use to leave the house (both during the day and at night) if you sense trouble brewing.

- Know where to go if your abuser attacks or an argument starts. Avoid small, enclosed spaces without exits (such as closets or bathrooms) or rooms with weapons (such as the kitchen). If possible, head for a room with a phone and an outside door or window

-Establish a word, phrase, or signal you can use to let your children, friends, neighbors, or co-workers know that you’re in danger and the police should be called.

Always have an escape plan!

-Keep the car fueled up and facing the driveway exit, with the driver’s door unlocked. Hide a spare car key where you can get it quickly. Have emergency cash, clothing, and important phone numbers and documents stashed in a safe place

-Ask several trusted individuals if you can contact them if you need a ride, a place to stay, or help contacting the police. Memorize the numbers of your emergency contacts, local shelter, and domestic violence hotline.

CONTACT A SHELTER!

Domestic violence shelters generally have room for both mothers and their children. The shelter will provide for all your basic living needs, including food and childcare. The length of time you can stay at the shelter is limited, but most shelters will also help you find a permanent home, job, and other things you need to start a new life. The shelter should also be able to refer you to other services for abused and battered women in your community, including:

- Legal Help
-Counseling
-Support Groups
-Service For Children
-Employment Programs 
-Health-Related Services 
-Educational Opportunities
-Financial Assistance


National Domestic Violence Hotline:  1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)