18 Steps To Safety

RAISEYOURVOICE!!

It can be hard to know if your relationship is headed down the wrong path. While it’s not always possible to prevent relationship violence, there are steps you can take to try to protect yourself.

If you think your partner might be controlling or abusive, you can:

1. Trust your feelings. If something doesn’t seem right, take it seriously.

2. Find out about the warning signs of someone who might become controlling or violent.

3. Get help. Talk to people who are experts in relationship violence.

4. Remember that if your partner hurts you, it’s not your fault.

5.  Have an Escape plan!

6.  Talk to an Advocate 

7. Find Out where safe houses are(Just incase)

8. Keep a folder of all important documents.(Pictures, Court paper work, Restraining order, ect..)

9. Try to find an attorney that has experience with Domestic Violence.

10. (If have kids) Talk to them. Know what is going on in their life. Show that your care and keep them safe.

11. If children are involved write down what you want (contact arrangements etc) before any meetings/court dates as intimidation may occur there.

12. If you leave. LEAVE. Do Not Go Back! Lose ALL contact.

13. Find out all programs your Community has for DV Victims 

14.  Educate yourself on Domestic Violence

15. Try talking to someone who has gone through Domestic Violence

16. Run to someone you can trust and Let them know what is going on, (You can never tell enough people. It maybe hard but you're saving your life and others)

17. CALL THE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE! 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

18.  KNOW THAT YOU ARE IMPORTANT! 

If your partner might be controlling or abusive, it’s better to get help now than to wait. Controlling or violent relationships usually get worse over time.